All I wanted to do was share a beautiful story of love with you but to share love I need to have that in my heart. I had been talking so lovingly about my bean bag theory and Mr. Chaste... well the situation is completely different now. My mistake... I accept... I have done terrible and irreparable damages to this relationship. The relationship I treasure so much.
The names and updates I had planned for my upcoming posts were:
Never been kissed: This was to tell you how I kissed and told him what I felt about him. He was totally petrified... he had never been kissed before. I know at the age of 25 if you are not kissed, its not a great achievement... but for him it was (some traditional notion). After that kiss he proposed me; now I feel it was a momentary feeling. But he did continue this relationship for few days before finally announcing his incapability of continuing further because he DID NOT feel that way for me, and it was my happiness for which he chose to be with me (aahh!! thanks honey... ok whatever). But yeah this is a fact, my happiness had no bound when he said those three magickal words, and the way he said them... I asked him after few slow and passionate kisses what is he going to tell his friend about us! and he answered "I will tell him… I am in love with you" (awww); well I cried tears of happiness. I had waited to hear something like this for years… trust me if you never have been REALLY proposed even once in your 27 years of existence on this earth, it does matter!! So I cried and very in fact VERY happily introduced him as my BF to my boss!!! Yeah, I don’t know what I was thinking, introducing him to my boss of all people. But the bottom line is I had never been so happy ever in my life and I understood the joy of listening to those words for the first time. I don’t think I will ever be able to feel the same. The quick person I am… our relationship progressed at supersonic speed and within a week it was only sex that remained between us (thank goodness the kid-thing still scares the guy and condoms are not an essential commodity for me to be kept in house like sugar). But yeah we did rest whatever you can think of and it was very good. He is good in bed… totally (damn it! Mr. Chaste is not so chaste after all;-)).
But as you know even after the rain stops the water doesn’t disappear at once, same way physical pleasure needs don’t end with relationship especially when it is not broken. Well, technically he had announced his decision but in my mind and heart we are still together. Even after separation the desires couldn’t keep us away and we indulged in many more lustful moments. For me it was a way of expressing my feelings but for him it was something else!!! (No he is still not the villain, the bad-guy oopss girl's role is played by me).
Some New Year- Please don’t wish me happy new year… its just Happy New Calendar. I am trying hard to make him feel something for me, but as you know these things don’t work this way. You can’t make someone feel something.
Present tense (literally)
Now the current situation is: he is smitten by some other girl, I am trying to divert my mind interacting with as many guys and some girls as possible and yet keep missing him. The physical thing remains where it was… in fact the situation is worse than you can think of. He left a naked me, in middle of a passionate session on that girl's call… wow! Now that's some insult!! And I kept talking and behaving very normal the next day and the day after… telling him continuously how much important he is for me and what all good things I feel about him; without a single affirmative response from him. He asked me "how can you feel satisfied with something like this? I don’t even respond to your actions or words. Its better you make my dummy and keep it if that’s what satisfies you".
May be what he said has hurt me but it’s the truth. I also want to tell some such truths… one I blurted two days back when in the middle of a fight about other girl I screamed out the real reason behind my cranky behavior… I screamed "I miss you and I miss you a lot; I miss your smile, your talks, our fights, the moments we spent together, your baggy tummy… everything I miss… I miss you so much". It gave me immense satisfaction, and it was pure truth that came out of my mouth at that point of time. There are zillion such things, or sweet nothings I want to utter but can't, because he is not ready to accept it. But after all this, we spent the next day together and even romanced. It was a bliss… his touch is magickal!! But it hurt him, he doesn’t want to do it, he feels bad about it (I told you he is old school).
About a week back he called me late at night and said he is not feeling good, I thought may be because he is missing me, we were not talking for few days now (ahhh!!! FinallyJ). Then he reveled the truth… he hadn’t seen her the entire day (crashhhhh…. Sorry! That wasn’t me, those were all the dreams and hopes). He wanted me to suggest him ways to approach that girl. I could feel something breaking in my heart, a piercing pain, and I looked at my heart and asked- "Is something left to break yet!!".
Today, he told me he went for a walk with that girl. I really didn’t know how to react. I am trying all sorts of meditation techniques to keep myself calm but it becomes difficult at times. Its 1.30 AM and I am still awake, trying to vent my feelings and sadness through this blog. I don’t want to lose whatever I have of him, but by behaving the way I am will I be able to hold it? He is doing everything possible to make it easy for me, even suggested that he could move to some different city, and I am making it difficult for him. How can I be so selfish? Why can't I just let it go!!
He can talk to me about stuff he couldn’t discuss with anyone else, is happy with me, cares for me, sleeps with me, but just doesn’t love me. Is this really my life? One of my best friends called and she was anxiously wondering "This can not happen with you, not again… so many things can not go wrong in your life!!". Still I would consider myself lucky, I got a chance to love and received care and friendship in return.
He even told me about that 'something is missing kind of feeling'… the feeling that I always experinced whenever I had some guy in my life. He is going through this phase, especially due to frustrating situtation created by his sister at home. That is when I realized I haven't experienced this feeling in a long-long time!! Either my feelings are dead or… its because of HIM, oh! I guess that is why I feel so complete with him. I wonder will I ever be able to get those tears of happiness back or will those words (I Love You) be able to entice the same feeling and tears of eternal joy when said by someone else. I tried gifting him a petal of rose on Valentine's Day and he refused. All I could do was shed few tears of disappointment and wonder will he ever accept my love!!
