Getting engaged to a perfect stranger after merely two meetings is definitely not the idea of my-happily- ever-after. The concept of arranged marriage might be ok for so many, almost most of them around me, but I am quite repulsive to that thought. It irritates me to the core because I believe love should be the basis of a relationship, not the family, income, house, car etc. What is the point of having a soul mate, when after 25 years of togetherness, suddenly one day we question ourselves, if we made a right decision to marry this person; or even worse, think if we could get a chance to start it over again!!!
I had been going through this arranged marriage shit for a long time. Then in the July of 2010, after a depressing heartbreak at the hands of the 'Scorpio King' (he is a true Scorpion, that’s why this name) and to avoid this regular torture of meeting guys, I finally agreed to get engaged to a guy after two meetings of 30 minutes each. Everybody around me sang in unison "it's all in your mind, things will fall in place; it's all in your mind, everything will be perfect". I believed them, that is the way they have lived their life and experience counts, doesn’t it? So, I trusted their opinions, views and experiences and agreed for this relation and got formerly engaged to a stranger.
But, the kind of person I am, it became difficult for me to adjust and I broke it, within a month's time. Well, God as usual, helped me a lot in doing so. Some issues cropped up and I got a chance to escape out of this mess **pheww**.
I started talking to Chaste after all this had taken place in my life. He was under the impression I am still engaged. But soon he became aware of my relationship status 'Single'. I was still nursing my broken heart at that time and we became friends. It was during our early friendship that Chaste had to go visit his parents. On his way to his hometown he messaged how he was missing me in the bus journey (that was cute). At home, he was with his family for about a week, but most of his time he spent talking to me over the phone. We talked, and we talked a lot. We got to understand each other better, he confessed he liked me and I explained my reason for being aversive to traditional match-making system and my Bean Bag Theory.
The Theory- According to me, the right person in our life is the one, with whom we will never feel out of place, or uncomfortable. We can share our dirtiest secrets with him/her and be sure; he/she won’t run away. The feeling is bit difficult to explain, but as I put it, he/she will be the bean bag for our heart. We can jump and fall in it and it will make sure, we are not hurt.
Another less famous theory is the Train Journey Theory. As I state it- imagine you are on a long train journey, you have crossed every possible station and there are no more halts further; now all that remains is journey. With whom would you like to spend all this time now? That person who comes to your mind first is the right person for you.
Chaste was very inquisitive about my way of looking at things. I explained to him how and why finding true love is the utmost goal of my life. He was truly impressed by that. Then I questioned him about his true love, and he was totally confused. I explained these theories to him and asked him to take a simple 'smile like an idiot' test, along with the above two (the theory tests). He cofessed it’s the memories of little things that I do that make him smile like an idiot when alone, and with me he feels totally at ease. He also told me that he knew about my poetry blog long before he actually mentioned it and was really-really impressed by me, by the kind of person I am, totally carefree. Wow, now that’s some revelation!! Or is it some love-story unfolding ;-).
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